Akothee has brought about a fresh online debate after sharing a of posts addressing co-parenting, parenting responsibility, and what she describes as the misuse of children in post-separation conflicts.
In her posts, she criticised what she termed as unhealthy co-parenting dynamics, where children are allegedly used as tools of control, punishment, or negotiation between separated parents.
She argued that co-parenting should be based on shared responsibility and mutual contribution toward a child’s upbringing, rather than placing financial or emotional pressure on one parent alone.
She further warned that legal intervention is not always the solution in custody and child support disputes, saying outcomes depend on how responsibly each parent fulfils their duties.
Akothee also raised concern over what she described as escalating conflict between former partners, saying such disputes often spill over into children’s emotional wellbeing. She claimed that some children are exposed to ongoing parental hostility, which can affect their behaviour, relationships, and mental health later in life.
In a second post, she expanded on the issue, stating that children should never be used as “weapons” in adult conflicts. She said prolonged parental disputes can leave children emotionally distressed, confused, and unable to freely express themselves without fear of upsetting either parent.
She further argued that parenting goes beyond biology, emphasizing that both mothers and fathers have a lifelong responsibility to provide love, guidance, protection, and stability.
“Giving birth does not end in the labour ward, and impregnating a woman does not make a man a father,” she wrote, adding that children deserve peace and the freedom to maintain relationships with both parents without manipulation or guilt.
Her remarks quickly attracted mixed reactions online, with some users agreeing with her call for shared responsibility and emotional stability in co-parenting, while others criticized her tone and generalizations about separated parents.
Co-parenting remains a widely debated issue in Kenya’s digital spaces, particularly as more public figures openly share personal views on relationships, custody, and family responsibility.
